4. Optional Contact with Family of Recipient


One of the primary aspects of organ donation is anonymity. The family of the deceased donor will not know the identity of the recipient, and vice-versa. If both choose get in touch with the other, they will have to do so through the organ procurement organization (OPO).

How Contact is Initiated

The organ recipient will often want to contact the family of the donor to thank them for authorizing the donation. He or she will need to write a letter to the family, but will have to give it to Lahey's transplant coordinator, who will send it to the organ procurement organization. The OPO will then read the letter to approve it, and will inform the family that they've received mail. Some families prefer not to accept the letter because they don't want to be reminded of their recent loss; others may choose to wait some time before accepting it. If the family chooses to reply, they'll have to do so through the OPO as mediator as well.

Anonymity is very important between donors and recipients. In order to maintain the privacy of both parties, the OPO will have to read all correspondence to remove private information, such as names or addresses.

Meeting the Recipient

If both parties continue a friendship and wish to meet in person, they may do so with permission from the OPO after waving their right to privacy. This encounter will be organized by the OPO, who will provide a social worker to supervise the meeting.

This meeting may have a deep impact on one or both parties. Some families develop a close friendship, and some may choose to part ways. Try to remember that each family mourns the loss of a loved one in different ways.